Advice For New Parents

Sex. After. Baby.

These three words are spoken in hushed voices over playdates and at playgrounds. But while we may whisper them to our closest girlfriends, or joke about them after one too many beers with the guys, when it comes to talking with our partners about what's really going on (or not going on, as the case may be) in our child-proofed bedrooms, more and more of us find ourselves tongue-tied and tiptoeing. Are you part of the "sleepless, sexless" club?

• You'd rather just go to bed than go to bed with your partner.
• The mind-blowing sex you once had now just blows.
• The TV is turned on more than you are.
• A playdate sounds better to you than yet another bad date night.
• The baby gets more kisses and cuddles than you do.
• You're beaten down from always having to initiate sex.
• Foreplay has become chore-play.
• "Let's get it on" are now fighting words.

But it doesn't have to be this way. According to bestselling author Ian Kerner, Ph.D., and "naughty mommy" Heidi Raykeil, it really is possible to do the hokey pokey and keep up the hanky panky. Ian and Heidi often bring very different perspectives, but they agree that sex matters . . . a lot.

It's the glue that holds couples together and keeps lovers from becoming simply roommates or co-parents. Funny and frank, Love in the Time of Colicwill help parents take the charge out of this once-taboo subject, and put it back where it belongs—in the bedroom.

About the Author

Ian Kerner, Ph.D., is the author of Love in the Time of Colic (with Heidi Raykeil) as well as many others. Kerner has appeared frequently on Today, contributes regularly to Cosmopolitan, and can also be found on AOL Coaches. He lives in New York City with his wife and two sons.

Book Review

In his new book Love in the Time of Colic: The New Parents' Guide to Getting It On Again Kerner and co-author Heidi Raykeil say there's no reason to throw your libido out with the baby's bath water. "It really is possible," they write, "to do the hokey pokey and keep up the hanky panky."

What causes the sexual fizzle between new parents? Exhaustion. Stress. Mom's hormones, and her tendency to devote every amp of energy and inkling of empathy to the helpless, gurgling humanoid in the bassinet, leaving none for poor, pent-up Dad.

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